You always hear people throwing around the phrase "It's the small things that count." If you really think about it, that couldn't be more true.

Little things can totally change your whole mood or outlook on things. One small detail can be the difference between a great experience and a horrible one.

For example:

You could be having the worst day of your life where everything seems to be going wrong. One of those days where you just wish you never woke up. But then you get a phonecall from someone you really care about and they just call to say "hi." That can completely turn your day around. Just a simple phone call.

Just as the small things can make a crappy day better, they can also make a great day horrible. A simple word can totally alter your attitude.

So the point of all this is that I think I need to pay more attention to the small things. I'm usually pretty good at doing so, but sometimes I overlook the small details. I need to watch myself and make sure I'm not the one who causes someone's good day to become horrible, and at the same time I need to make sure I help people who are having potentially bad days have great ones.

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I feel like I've been backed into a corner lately. Almost like its tough for me to even breathe without causing some kind of pain to someone. I hate this feeling so much. I just really want all of those people close to me to be happy. And sometimes I feel like I make myself miserable in order to make other people feel good.

Have you ever just had a sudden change of heart? You think that you feel one way, but then suddenly you realize that maybe you dont feel that way? But then you're afraid to admit the change of heart because you dont want to hurt the person. It's the worst feeling in the world, it really is. And when you feel like you're backed into a corner and that you cant breathe and you know that you're about to hurt someone you care about, life just sucks.

I hate confrontation, not because i can't deal with the actual confrontation, but i hate to deal with the pain that results from it. I never intend to bring anyone pain. I'd do anything I can to avoid it or to relieve it. So sometimes I suffer so that I can just avoid causing pain to someone else.

Someone very close to me recently told me that I needed to think about myself as well. He told me that while it's good to think of others, its no good making them happy if you're miserable. That was tough for me to swallow, but I know it's true. So I brought some pain to someone and I really feel horrible about it. They were really understanding about it, but I still feel horrible for making them feel that way.

It's hard to be happy when you know you've brought someone pain.

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